DEAR DEIDRE: I CAUGHT my husband on CCTV kissing one of our employees.
We’re both 40 and run a care home.
We’ can’t spend a lot of time together as one of us is at the business from early morning until late at night, while the other is getting our boys up for school or making their dinner.
Our sex life is terrible, too.
I was checking the CCTV to find out when a girl had clocked on at work and I was horrified to see one of the women in my husband’s arms kissing him passionately.
I confronted them and they denied doing anything wrong – but the footage said it all. I don’t feel that I can forgive him.
DEIDRE SAYS: This has made you realise that you have both been neglecting your relationship.
Regaining trust won’t be easy but, if this was just a fling for your husband, it’s worth looking for other ways of working.
You need to commit more time to each other as well as to the family.
Showing the ropes to a trusted employee could free up more time. My e-leaflet Cheating – Can You Get Over It? will help.