AN OUTRAGED mother has sparked debate online after sharing a picture of a crude “Up the Bum” card on Mumsnet.
Posting in the “Am I Being Unreasonable” forum, the anonymous parent worried about the message the rude card sends to young women and said she “hates how this kind of crap is being normalised.”
The £3.75 card from Love Layla comes under the store’s anniversary selection and reads: “Up the bum, no harm done.”
And slap bang in the middle of the card is a suggestive-looking love heart just really hammer the crude joke home…
The outraged mother worried about the kind of message this “hilarious” card sends to young women, with two “darling daughters of her own.”
She continued: “A lot of harm can come from anal sex and messages like this pressurise girls into doing it anyway because it’s being normalised and thought of as hilarious.”
Unsurprisingly, other Mumsnet users said the card was “bang out of order” and commented on how the phrasing raises worrying questions of consent.
One user wrote: “It actually sounds like he’s shoved it up without asking… but ‘no harm done.'”
Another added: “Just. Not. Funny.”
Meanwhile, one outraged mother wrote: “Who buys these things? It’s like sixth form humour, I’d be embarrassed to hand one of these to someone.”
However, the user did highlight the “‘no harm done’ referred to not risking getting pregnant than anything else.”
Jumping to the defence of the tongue-in-cheek design, one Mumsnet user said: “While it doesn’t appeal to my sense of humour at all, I think it’s a stretch to say a silly rhyme suggests non-consensual sex.
“It’s in their anniversary section, ‘no harm done’ could just as easily mean ‘not knocked up.'”
Another user added: “I think it’s fine. It’s not promoting anal sex. Although even if it was, who cares?”
Contributing to the discussion, one Mumsnet user concluded: “I don’t see how this card is offensive at all.
“Like other people have said, each to their own…”
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